Category: Getting Better

Happiness is a Practice This afternoon I was driving along a road that runs parallel to the ocean. It is a cold day here in New England, just twenty-one degrees, but the sun is shining. It’s been weeks, it seems since we have seen real sunshine. My kids were in the car with me. We…

This is exactly the way I dreamed of my life when I dared to dream. In the dark times- Cancer, job loss, a marriage close to the brink of divorce, a mental breakdown, alcohol abuse, poor mental health… during all of that I was privy to a glimpse. A glimpse of a good and happy…

I guess I’ve come a long way. All I saw on the halftime show heard from Minnesota to Nebraska was two powerful non-white women absolutely fucking crushing it. A decade ago I too probably would have cried old school feminist virtues. Now though? I saw two women standing in their power, embracing who they are,…

We aren’t as fragile as we think we are. We are capable of handling the hard conversations and setting boundaries. We are strong enough to sit with emotion and think about what it is we mean. We are durable enough to change our mind and shift our perspective and see it from another angle. We…

Here’s what I know: we are losing too many important contributions from women. Instead of speaking up we are camouflaging our stomachs. Instead of saying “no” we are nodding. Rather than swimming, we are staying covered in a chair. We opt out of jumping on the trampoline because our boobs and butts are too jiggly….

Me: “I only work out when I feel like it.” Them: “pssht. If you only work out when you feel like it you’ll never work out.” Me: “ I do workout. When I feel like it.” Them: “I workout a lot because I like to eat.” Me: “I like to eat.” Them: “but I like…

Okay male Noom user on the commercial- you “got your life back” from losing 27 pounds? How much self-worth must you lack to let 27 pounds require the need to “get your life back”? Friends- don’t let this time of year rob you of joy. Don’t let the commercials that are designed by the best…

Self-worth is essetnial to living a happy life, I think. I did not realize it, though. How about you? Everyone is looking back at their year, it seems. There are lots of posts and conversations about greatest accomplishments. I love reading them. I love hearing about how you made something happen. I love to see…

Here’s something I’ve learned about boundaries: if someone has a good handle on boundaries and has them set, it doesn’t matter if you think the boundaries are appropriate. That’s the point. They are their boundaries. In fact, the more we judge, disapprove of, and try to dismantle those boundaries, the further away from us that person…

This “fuck this shit” bracelet arrived yesterday. Knowing the hands that made it makes me feel even more empowered and powerful when I wear it. It is a work of art. It is a reminder to bat away the bullshit that tries to keep me down; expectations, roles, people pleasing, self-worth crises, overthinking, fear of…