Do you feel like you’re not enough? Do you know that your one spin on this planet must be about more than constantly worrying about back fat and counting calories? Do you know that this one wild and precious life must be meant for more than always trying to keep other people happy? That there must be more joy, excitement, and happiness for you?
Gosh do I know how you feel. I spent the first forty something years of my life living for others. Then for a while I mixed it up and lived a life one hundred percent for me. This isolated me and left me almost worse than before. You can read my story here.
A mental breakdown forced me to think about what the hell I am doing on this planet. I reached a point where I realized my time here was almost half over. Suddenly, I saw that I really will not get a second chance- that this is it.
There was a lot I had to do to learn how to live. I had to get comfortable in my own skin, grow up, learn how to be who I am while not steamrolling others, and learn how to tell the truth.
That may sound easier than it was.
All of this was new to me. I had no idea how dark not knowing how to do these things made life. How confusing. How muddy. How uncertain.
I couldn’t make basic decisions without agonizing over them. I couldn’t take action on anything with procrastinating like a pro. Instead of telling people the truth, I told them what they wanted to hear. This put distance not only between myself and others but within myself.
Over the last seven or so years I have invested heavily in getting better. I quit drinking. I quit lying. I quit people pleasing and shrinking. And honestly?
It wasn’t as hard as I thought.
I did all of this by investing in myself just a little bit everyday. This looked like reading, listening, considering, and trying new ways of thinking and acting.
My life is not grandiose. If you met me you would be thoroughly unimpressed by how ordinary my life is. You might feel betrayed by how imperfect it is and by the messes I am still cleaning up.
That said, I am incredibly proud of the life I live now. It is solid. Responsible. Truthful. Authentic. Sober. Clear. Real.
Now, I am passionate about sharing the stuff I have learned with other women who want to make their lives better.
I am not a certified professional in anything. I am self-taught and share the tools, perspectives, thoughts, and resources I have found most useful. When we commit to taking time to invest in resources we want to know they are useful. It really sucks when we have spent a few hours reading a book or watching a talk that is nothing but hot air. This is one of the things I hope to share with you; meaningful resources.
In addition I will share honesty, compassion, forgiveness, love, and authenticity.
To me, this is wholehearted living and it is what is making my life so grand. Would you like to join us in moving toward wholehearted self-love for women? Click here. We’d love to have you!